How To Survive Your First Holiday As A Couple
The road is the ultimate test of your love.
Aah, that dreamy first trip away together. Youre going to get to know each other much more than before - for better or worse! Take heed of our top tips for your first holiday together as a couple, and youll be coming home on the same flight.
Try not to place too much importance on the holiday - unless you are actually a couple from a Sandals ad, its not all going to be perfect, but that doesnt mean that he/she isnt the one for a lifetime of holidays, homes and babies.
Accept the low points
Even if youve shared a house together, a holiday will introduce you to a whole new world of intimacy. Being with one person all day, every day for a week or two takes some getting used to. And for most of us it isnt going to be a continual hot bedroom marathon. Sorry fellas! As much as we all love our holidays, people sometimes get tired, stressed, sick, sunburned, grumpy and bored when theyre away from home - accept this, and dont take it personally.
Discuss your budget
Make sure that youve both agreed the kind of cash youll be spending and how you will pay for things while youre away. If its a new relationship, this can seem awkward but you need to be honest about what you can afford to avoid stress and financial difficulties.
Say no to travel stress
Prepare for the journey in advance to minimise last-minute problems. When youre stuck on the motorway for two hours en route to the airport, or discussing collision damage waivers in a sweaty hire car office, youll really find out how your partner deals with stress - and the same goes for them.
If a situation, or their reaction, is winding you up, try to keep calm, breathe deeply and slowly, count to 10, bite your tongue and generally be more patient than you would under normal circumstances. You dont want to have your first argument before youve even reached the hotel.
We all have different expectations of a holiday. Before you go, discuss the activities and trips youre interested in - dont leave it until you realise that he plans to lie by the pool with a cold beer and a Kindle all week, while you were dreaming of scuba diving, kitesurfing and trekking together. And remember that compromise is always healthy in a relationship!
While doing stuff together is a great part of a couples holiday, having a bit of separate time is equally important. That might just be reading your book in a shady nook or going on a day trip to a nearby city that she doesnt fancy.
Do what youre good at and share the jobs
Its easy to forget that theres some organisation and boring stuff to do on holiday - try to share responsibility for things like asking for a table in a restaurant, booking a taxi, going food shopping or planning an excursion. If youre better at speaking Spanish, dont leave it all to him; or if youre more organised dont expect her to plan your day out to the mountains.
Meeting other people
When youre finding that two is too much of a good thing, perhaps make an effort to find some holiday friends. Swapping stories and having a laugh with some new people can often give your holiday a whole new lease of life.
Avoid picking arguments
If your formerly-loved one is really, continually getting on your wick, its wise not to unleash a torrent of abuse and detailed description of everything thats wrong with them while on holiday - especially when youve had a few drinks. Its likely to spiral out of control, and youll say things youll both regret.Top